Relationship People

I'm starting to believe more and more that everyone is either a Relationship Person, or not. (A singles person?) Everyone I know seems to be one or the other. Aka, they either are happiest when in an actual relationship, or they feel claustrophobic in a relationship and they're only happy when they're completely free.

I have a friend, for example, who's "dating" a girl who's very much the latter. Whenever she's been in something that even resembled a relationship before, she immediately would get scared and end things. She doesn't get around tons or anything, but she absolutely can't ever be in anything that would be deemed an actual "relationship", or she'd freak out. She knows this about herself though, and has told my friend all about it. My friend, therefore, is currently bending himself backwards over trying to give her enough space to not feel like this is a "relationship", even though they're exclusive and see each other all the time. She can't be seen in public with him (then people would talk and they would be on some kind of official status), and they can't hang out alone for too long.

Now, I'm not judging this, her, or my friend in any way. It's not my deal, and therefore not my place to judge, but permit me a chance to at least say that it's a bit peculiar to me, a relationship person for sure. I've always kind of thought about myself this way, but I've very recently realized how true it is.

A relationship of over two and a half years, most of my high school career, ended a few days ago, and the last few days have taught me a lot about how much of a relationship person I really am. This was a relationship that I wasn't getting tons out of towards the end of things, and it ended mutually and civilly because we both kind of felt this way. Aka, we weren't right for each other anymore, and we both just felt like things had run their course. I felt fine for a day or two, but now I feel strangely lonely and empty, and I'm thinking tons about her and all of it.

How bizarre: I wanted out of the relationship (at least at times) when I was in it, and I really was okay when things ended. I've thought a lot about it, and this is my theory: I don't miss the relationship itself (or her in particular), but I miss a relationship. I think that I'm such a relationship person in general, that when I'm not in one I do feel lonely or empty in a way.

Now, I'm not as much a relationship person as my friend's (...girlfriend?) is a singles person. I'm not by any means one of those people who absolutely can't be alone and needs constant validation that way, but I do get lonely when I'm without someone I think, maybe more than most people. It's also possible this is just me dealing with the break up, I don't know. It's a theory...

Chice